August 22nd, 2008 maggie
Warning: completely fluffy post follows:
Maybe because my brain is still fried from the femme conference, or maybe because I read US weekly at the airport (it’s my constitutional right to read gossip rags while traveling), I’ve been thinking about celebrity butch-femme type couples. Poor Samantha Ronson is getting tons of shit for her plaid shirts and hoodies, and while I don’t love her fashion sense or find her attractive, I don’t think it’s fair for the Go Fug Yourself folks and their ilk to take her style out of the context of her gender and expect her to wear whatever they think young feminine celebrities should be wearing. I don’t care all that much about queer celebrities most of the time, but it would be nice if people could make an effort to understand just a little tiny bit about different gender expressions.
Anyway, a friend just informed me that she has purchased the people magazine with Ellen and Portia’s wedding pictures and I am so excited! I love the way the lines of Portia’s dress echoed the lines of Ellen’s vest, I love how happy they look, I love the cream. Even if they don’t ID as butch or femme I like seeing a romantic, idealized picture of that celebrated in pop culture. But some folks at feministing are unhappy about Ellen’s joke about Portia cooking and cleaning and “taking her off the market.” I like feministing for news but they continually take a one-sided, second-wave view of queer women as gender-free, oatmeal-eating, cuddling overall-wearers. Fortunately, there are some good comments in response.
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May 27th, 2008 maggie
I want to write more on passing because it’s a hot topic around here lately and there are some in depth and thoughtful comments.
Freedomgirl said: If I have to go through that just like every other lesbian, do I really have to take crap from said lesbians because I don’t look right???
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April 15th, 2008 maggie
More Femme-Relevant Books and Authors!
This is going to be in installments, even though Sassafrass covered a huge portion of the femme canon I have a lot to say. Here are some books I love. Coming soon: the books on my reading list, and a list of favorite pieces from anthologies.
Whipping Girl, Julia Serano
Hey girls, did you hear the news? It’s been scientifically proven that barrettes are dangerous! So are bracelets and bric-a-brac. It’s a fact. And don’t be fooled by the thick-necked macho men who pretend that “girl stuff†is boring or frivolous…
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January 6th, 2008 maggie
This started out as a comment to Sassafras’s last entry but it got so long that I figured it could be its own post.
I have a friend, Steve, a bi non-trans man who is very chivalrous. We used to go out to dinner and I called it “heterosexual privilege night” because I could feel people watching us when he helped me on with my coat and such and it felt very different from how people look when I’m with a butch. They were probably thinking “how sweet” or “how quaint” instead of trying to figure out who we were and what we were doing together. Read the rest of this entry »
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