I’m a high femme because I got bored with being a boy—-or something like that
March 28th, 2008 Sassafras
In sitting down to write this entry (which was harder than i thought it would be) I asked Kestryl (my partner) why i’m a high femme and hir joking response was that it was because i got bored with being a boy. Now that isn’t exactly the case but for folks who know me it has been a pretty crazy change in trajectory from injecting T every week.
It’s hard for me to put into words what high femme means to me, even though it is an identity which I have a lot of connection to. On a linguistic level there is a part of me which takes issue with the term, after all doesn’t using “high” to qualify femme inherently create yet another false binary in which high femmes could be understood to be more femme, or better femmes? I’m not sure if that ends up happening within the community, although it is something that i worry about even if i do identify with the label. I don’t want my identity or how i conceptualize of my gender and sexuality to provoke competition amongst femmes, nor do I want to participate in the creation of a femme hierarchy.
