This week’s theme is high femme here in the Blogging Department
March 24th, 2008 maggie
What is high femme? I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately, and I don’t really know what it means. People keep referring to me as high femme. I hear people call others high femme, meaning “very femme,†but I don’t know many people who identify themselves that way. Sassafras does, and ze’s going to write about it this week. Maybe I should have made hir go first, since today you’re going to get some ramblings from me and not a lot of education on the matter.
Last week, a friend who I totally think of as femme, although I’m not sure if she identifies herself that way, hugged me goodbye and said in my ear “you make me feel butch.†I was totally taken aback. “Why?†“You just do your high femme thing so well.†My reflexive response was “I’m not high femme.†I may have also said something like “that’s ridiculous.†Maybe she feels that I’m more femme than her and it brings out a different aspect of her gender in a way she enjoys. Maybe she was flirting, in a friendly way. But it made me worried that she felt butch by default, that I made her feel less femme, not more butch in a good way.
Lately I feel like I’m going further and further into my femininity, doing things in terms of appearance/clothes/makeup as well as relating to butches in different ways that a few years ago I wouldn’t have wanted. Is that high femme? I don’t know. Read the rest of this entry »
