March 31st, 2008 maggie
We’re talking about sex this week, but I think I’m talking about desire. As much as I want to talk about sex, there are details I don’t want to go into where google can find me. I love talking about sex, though, ask me about it sometime in real life, I’ll tell you more than you want to know. As a preface to tomorrows post:
A conversation at the Women, Action and the Media Conference that made my day:
Person 1: “I’m dating my first femme lover!â€
Person 2: “Me tooâ€
Person 1: “Isn’t it great?â€
Me: swoon.
How affirming to belong to a category that is desirable.
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March 28th, 2008 Sassafras
In sitting down to write this entry (which was harder than i thought it would be) I asked Kestryl (my partner) why i’m a high femme and hir joking response was that it was because i got bored with being a boy. Now that isn’t exactly the case but for folks who know me it has been a pretty crazy change in trajectory from injecting T every week.
It’s hard for me to put into words what high femme means to me, even though it is an identity which I have a lot of connection to. On a linguistic level there is a part of me which takes issue with the term, after all doesn’t using “high” to qualify femme inherently create yet another false binary in which high femmes could be understood to be more femme, or better femmes? I’m not sure if that ends up happening within the community, although it is something that i worry about even if i do identify with the label. I don’t want my identity or how i conceptualize of my gender and sexuality to provoke competition amongst femmes, nor do I want to participate in the creation of a femme hierarchy.
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March 27th, 2008 maggie
Stuff I’ve purchased this week for upcoming shows:
“shapewear” so I can fit into my vintage dress for works in progress
boyshorts for my new femme show piece
batteries for the camera
DVD-RWs
tap shoes for my Traniwreck piece, after I gave up on putting taps onto some old character shoes I had lying around.
black ballet shoes for my new femme show piece
foundation because I realized my foundation was probably clogging my pores because it was like 3 years old. gross.
velcro and snaps
black netting for my works in progress hat
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March 27th, 2008 Webmaster
We went to True Colors and we saw the future and the future is the youth! Yea, we know that was cheesy, can you say it better? Great! Because we’re looking for all-star youth to come write for us. We’re looking to include your perspective on all things femme or all things queer. Did you attend True Colors and were you inspired by The Femme Show in some way? Have you been reading the blog and thought of things that you’re dealing with that you wished we were talking about? Then send us a writing sample; pitch us an idea for a weekly or monthly column and join The Femme Show writing team!
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March 24th, 2008 maggie
What is high femme? I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately, and I don’t really know what it means. People keep referring to me as high femme. I hear people call others high femme, meaning “very femme,†but I don’t know many people who identify themselves that way. Sassafras does, and ze’s going to write about it this week. Maybe I should have made hir go first, since today you’re going to get some ramblings from me and not a lot of education on the matter.
Last week, a friend who I totally think of as femme, although I’m not sure if she identifies herself that way, hugged me goodbye and said in my ear “you make me feel butch.†I was totally taken aback. “Why?†“You just do your high femme thing so well.†My reflexive response was “I’m not high femme.†I may have also said something like “that’s ridiculous.†Maybe she feels that I’m more femme than her and it brings out a different aspect of her gender in a way she enjoys. Maybe she was flirting, in a friendly way. But it made me worried that she felt butch by default, that I made her feel less femme, not more butch in a good way.
Lately I feel like I’m going further and further into my femininity, doing things in terms of appearance/clothes/makeup as well as relating to butches in different ways that a few years ago I wouldn’t have wanted. Is that high femme? I don’t know. Read the rest of this entry »
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March 23rd, 2008 maggie
ooh! I am excited for this. Anything that promises ” We will challenge all of your Gender, Sex, Feminist, Social, & Political boundaries & assumptions.” sounds like a good idea to me.
Saturday April 12, 2008 3:30-6:30 (early show)
Body Heat: Femme Porn Tour 2008
Lily Pad
1353 Cambridge Street Inman Square Cambridge
$8 3:30-6:30 (early show)
http://www.truthserum.org for more info.
“Body Heat is a collective of fierce, sassy, irreverent Femme artists
setting ablaze performance art communities and smashing Femme
stereotypes. Porn, Kink, Smut, Erotica - Body Heat is not reclaiming our
sex so much as OWNING it. We will turn you on. We will challenge all of
your Gender, Sex, Feminist, Social, & Political boundaries &
assumptions. We will entertain the hell out of you. Mostly we will leave
you panting, begging, dripping for more. Featuring Jen Cross, Veronica
Combs (aka Vixen Noir), Celestina Pearl, kathleen delaney, Meliza
Banales, and Amber Dawn.”
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March 21st, 2008 Sassafras
This past weekend was absolutely glorious here in NYC, blue skies, sunshine, and temperatures in the mid-fifties (did I mention that I hate to be hot) even new yorkers couldn’t help but smile as we all squinted at that unfamiliar ball of golden light. Every Saturday morning Kestryl and I go grocery shopping, we carry our big canvas bags and fill up on enough vegetarian organic goodness to last us the entire week. Well this past weekend when we got home it just so happened that we also needed to go out to pick up dog and cat food. Because of the nice weather we decided to take the bus, and on the way back to the apartment noticed a craft store that we had never seen before, so of course after unloading the food for the furry kids at home we headed back out!
OMG entering that craft store I was in femme heaven!!!! i was seriously surrounded by beautiful fabric (and oh so very cheap) and i wont even mention the trim!!! oh good goddess it was actually 10 yards for $1 ! Needless to say we left the shop with several yards of beautiful pink fabric and proceeded to spend the evening sewing me a beautiful pink skirt that can be worn over either of my tutus!!!!! we also picked up several different colors of yarn and Kestryl has begun very patiently teaching me how to crochet. I’m still very clearly in the learning phase of things, but I’m already starting to pick it up.
Growing up I never really learned how to sew, so it’s a skill that i’m just starting to build as an adult, and maybe it’s connected to that but for whatever reason for me crafting feels tied to my femme identity (not all crafting mind you- as i’m learning to sew and crochet from my partner who is very firmly a butch). perhaps it’s just that i’m excited about all the new accessories—i fully intend to crochet all summer and by next winter have a new collection of scarves, leg warmers, arm warmers, and possibly even a crocheted skirt!!!! there is something about crafting that just feels glittery and magical to me, like how at the beginning of the afternoon we can start with a little folded square of fabric and a few hours later i can be twirling around the living room in a new custom fit to me skirt. what about all the rest of you femmes, are you into crafts?
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